Massad Ayoob is one of the top use of force trainers in the business. Anything you can get with his name on it is a good thing. "Google" his name and you will get bunches of hits on his work.
Whatever you do, do not believe anything you see on entertainment TV or in the movies, about gun use. Most Hollyweirdos have no idea what-so-ever in anything relating to firearms. There are a very few exceptions, but most gun issues in entertainment is written by a screenwriter who is only interested in maintaining an interesting plot at the expense of authenticity.
Take anything you read on the Internet gun forums with a grain of salt as well. There is NO BEST GUN, or NO BEST AMMO, HOLSTER, etc. What you are reading about, are the guns and ammo they have bought and like, or in some cases are stuck with and trying to justify. What works well for one person, does not necessarily work for everyone. Do your research and make your own decision.
Find a well respected tactical trainer in your area and get some professional training. It is one thing to go out into the boonies and shoot at targets and beer cans, but it is quite another to get professional training. Also there are many gun store commandos who spread old wife's tales and myths, you should be aware of. Granted, professional training can be spendy, but ultimately it may well be worth it. If it's within your budget, instead of taking a week off from work to go camping, or to see Aunt Ethel, book a week at a shooting school for both you and your spouse / significant other and make it a vacation. It's probably cheaper than Disney World, and will last a lifetime. Hopefully, a long lifetime.
Finally, do not be fooled by gun reviews in gun magazines. You may notice that the guns and gear of their sponsors tend to get the best reviews.
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