When you're testing for this purpose, always use 2 pieces of drywall spaced 4 inches apart to simulate actual wall sections. Usually, I will then space them as if they were in a cross section of a home (hallway widths and typical room widths between them). If you're worried about not penetrating, you don't have to worry about the studs or other things in the walls, as you are testing for the worst case scenario.
As for the "box test" desrcibed above, I can promise you that 1 or 2 sheets of drywall in that test will not significantly affect the bullet inside of 2 feet. The space between the sheets is important in terms of the bullet both breaking up and losing speed as it tumbles and hits the next piece of wall in a position other than point first. The reason the 55gr .223 makes a better choice than pistol bullets in this regard is because it is
less likely to pose a threat through interior home walls, especially after 2 or 3, not because they magically "disintegrate" when they hit drywall.
If you are looking for absolutely no risk of penetration through an interior home wall, you are going to have to look at something like rat shot out of a pistol or (maybe) .410 birdshot.... not the greatest known defensive choices! Any firearm/round choice is a compromise of variables that you need to decide how to balance against one another.
The show Wesnesday night will demonstrate the recommended set up and several common rounds.
As for this:
No one on this forum is going to testify in your defense.
I wouldn't be so sure. One of the reasons I pay a significant amount of money to Lloyd's each year for Errors & Ommisions insurance is because of the possibility of ending up in court if a student has a problem after acting on something I taught. That teaching extends to articles, videos and even internet posts like these. Most instructors understand that and are pretty specific about what they write online.
That may not be the case for posts from the annonymity of "toughguy345", but when you see a professional instructor posting under his name, it carries as much weight as it would in a classroom setting or a printed article.
-RJP