I'm glad you have all recovered from those kinds of losses.
I was in VFD for 13 years, 6 as a chief officer and 3 as Chief. I had a few rip roarin' jobs in my stint at the top, but thankfully never a fatality. I had a passion for it like I do for shooting...just can't get enough of it or training either.
After a messy political ordeal I was ousted and out-cast, the department eventually went to virtually fully paid. The last fire I responded to was (now again as a peon) a good friend's house. Fire started in the second floor and into the attic. I was as far as you could get from being in charge and so I busied myself doing salvage- covering first floor belongings, etc. Spent some time hugging his wife out in the street, who had been called and came home from work to watch. At the end they had most of those things I had covered, but not much else.
They had good insurance and I actually rebuilt their house. It all turned out great, but it was my last fire. I resigned shortly after that fire and never went back to another function...just didn't have anything left for it.
You never know how or how much an incident will affect you. Anyone who has that kind of traumatic incident and comes out of it with everyone healthy and feeling good is really blessed.