jaybet -
All reloaders are anal. It is part of the activity. Attention to detail, record keeping, measurements, results, etc. all need to be watched very carefully. If person isn't somewhat anal they can never be a good reloader. And once a meticulous person begins reloading they become anal.
I can spend a day at the range with a group, and without looking at the ammo or listening to them I can tell you who are the reloaders and who aren't. It is easy to pick out the guys that are spending hours on the "small stuff," and they are the reloaders that are hooked for life.
If you are looking for good ... really good used reloading equipment - talk to the guys that talk about reloading only in terms of saving money, put a "value on their time," and talk pennies rather than brands. Develop a friendship with the guys at the gun shop, and contact the shopper that only cares about the price of a component rather than the brand. Serious reloaders will have a set list that they work from. Any shopping is done on those items and nothing else.
I bought my MEC 9000 from a guy who said he had run 10,000 rounds through it. I doubted it, because it looked like brand new. My first night of using it I ran over a thousand rounds through it, and at 150 I had put more wear on the paint than he had. The reason he was selling it - He started shooting trap and always bought AA. He went to reloading to save money, but he found that he could buy cheap aluminum based crap for the same money as reloading, and as a "business professional" his time as worth too much to spend at the press. Not a true relaoder, but that is my gain