question about what to do

[groundhogsniper23]

Hello fellas, I have a question on how to react to this and i'm new to this forum and am not sure where this goes in. yesterday my wife was home with my son alone and a black man selling heritage insurance came to the door, and i know this was a mistake, she let him in and they talked about the insurance. i called her from work and she told me this and i told her that wasn't smart and to get her .38 out and lock the doors just in case. She said he was driving a small green car with no hub caps and he gave her no information on the insurance. no card to get ahold of him or nuthing. i made sure today she remembered how to load her gun and reload just in case. any more info on what to do about this or what to look for. thanks everyone.

[tombogan03884]

NEVER LET STRANGERS IN YOUR HOUSE.  Your wife is VERY lucky that her ill conceived actions have not yet had BAD consequences.
She needs to start watching the news, (every time a story comes on about home invasion, murder, robbery, rape etc. call it to her attention) Have her start watching "The Best Defense".
There is nothing you can do now about her past bad judgment except to increase your precautions. But you need to stress to her the need for AWARENESS, and that this is not the 50's any more. That type of bad judgment can get one or both of you killed.
 Exit question : If he's making a living selling Insurance door to door, (does anybody REALLY still do that ?) why no contact info and why is he driving a sh!tbox vehicle ?

[groundhogsniper23]

i would love for her to start watching best defense but she is at work when it is on.  i have told her about these things but she said at first she felt safe then while he was in the house she was feeling uneasy. shes kinda of feeling scared that he will come back. he asked about her work and i think he was casing the place. i'm looking into making our bedroom the save room cuz its the only place where she can be safe and has a door on it other then the bath room. she has her 38 and my glock with extra ammo ther and i'm looking for my old cell phone to put in there for her. we done went over the plan just in case.

[Frisco]

i would love for her to start watching best defense but she is at work when it is on.  i have told her about these things but she said at first she felt safe then while he was in the house she was feeling uneasy. shes kinda of feeling scared that he will come back. he asked about her work and i think he was casing the place. i'm looking into making our bedroom the save room cuz its the only place where she can be safe and has a door on it other then the bath room. she has her 38 and my glock with extra ammo ther and i'm looking for my old cell phone to put in there for her. we done went over the plan just in case.

Teach her this phrase....."My husband is just getting out of the shower....and he will NOT be interested in whatever you are selling."

[ismram]

It's a terrible thing that we can't trust people like we used to. When I was a child I can remember taking vacations and never locking the doors of the house. I'm not sure that I ever remember the doors locked. This is a different time. We must now think the worst of people, be on constant alert for ourselfs and our faimly's saftey. I think your wife is very lucky that this man #1 maybe was a real insurance agent (A bad one without cards!) or #2 he was only there to case your house at the time, and not there to rob or even do worse things. You and your wife need to use this as a "life lesson", learn from it, plan for future events. I hope you called the police and reported the incident. They may know of a scam going on. They may be able to check with the company to see if this was a real agent. Please sit down together, talk about this. Tom is right AWARENESS is the key! God Bless and Be Safe!

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[groundhogsniper23]

thanks fellas, yea i'm usually always aware of things since i started watching best defense has taught me alot of things and i try to teach her these things but it goes in one ear and out the other cuz she says thats what ur interested in and i'm not. no. i didn't call the police becasue i didn't think they could do anything. thats what they usuall  tell me when i call about something after it happens. i feel that god is the only thing that kept my wife and son safe at the time. i'm planning for if something goes haywire after while. like a saferoom, weapons, ammo, and protection to keep anyone from getting in the room once we or her are in there.

[fightingquaker13]

I think the saferoom thing is a good idea for all of us. Putting a $20 deadbolt on a good quality door is a better alternative than having to shoot someone. If they're dumb enough to try and kick it down, well we know where to aim. Plus, just for Haz's benefit I'd say get a dog. They're not trained silent killers like his avatar but they will discourage a lot of folks and least wake you up. Plus every boy needs a dog. Also not to criticise you or your wife, but one thing in the post struck me. You said you reminded her how to load her gun. If she's going to be using it for defense, particularly around your kid, I'd suggest you take her on a romantic date the range. Puts every woman in the mood. Just my .02.
fightingquaker13
PS when you get her there just shoot silouettes at close range. You don't want to shake her confidence and if its only for the house 15 feet is probaly about max range any way. You know big your living room is, start there.

[Pathfinder]

VCRs are still available at Wally World and elsewhere for around $50 - assuming you get TOC, which you watch so I assume you do. Tape the episodes, repeats start next month.

Get stickers for the doors advertising ADT or some other security service.

Motion detector front and rear door lights.

Interior lights on variable timers. Just saw an add for a small light that mimics a TV set when you're away - flashes different intensities of blue like a TV screen.

One more thing - training! Hopefully your wife learned her lesson. As the Godfather said - women and children can afford to be careless, men can't. Only today, women can't either.

[tombogan03884]

" i try to teach her these things but it goes in one ear and out the other cuz she says thats what ur interested in and i'm not. no."

Ask her if staying alive interests her, doesn't her son deserve a LIVE mother ?
May sound grim but this sort of thing gets people killed.

[groundhogsniper23]

fightingquaker, ur right its my fault i don't spend more time teaching her defensive techniques. as for the saferoom i was looking at putting an object that can be slim enough to hide behind the door but can block the door when put in use. i think she's ready to learn more about defense and i'm ready to teach her as much as i know and continue to learn from the best defense. i live in the boondocks and things like that you don't hear about alot round my parts. but i guess it can happen anywhere just look at 9-11. things really don't click till the balls in my court. i was using the excuse " i'll wait till it get warm to take her to the range" that may be too little too late.