Intresting question, from another site...

[TAB]

lets just say you are surfing porn, and you come across a friend of yours duaghter, now she is in her 20s, going to school...etc, do you tell your friend?

[bulldog75]

The question Would you want someone telling you that your baby girl was naked on the internet. I would be grateful but embarassed as hell. This is a tough one. Wow I am at a loss for words. If he is a good friend I would tell him but be very discreet about it and promise not tell anyone else to save his pride.

 

[TAB]

I'm no so sure I would tell them, I most likly would try to talk her into telling them.

[fightingquaker13]

Ok, one question. What the hell is wrong with you two? The girl made a dumb call. BUT, you say she's in her twenties. Her life, her business. Who are you to make trouble with her family? Maybe she didn't know she was making internet porn (eg Paris Hilton with a sleaze bag boy friend and an internet cam), maybe she was going through that early twenties, I'm liberating myself and exploring things phase, maybe she needed the cash. Either way, not your business. And what exactly are you going to say to dad? Gee, I was making a sticky keyboard when I realized it was your daughter, just thought you should know? You'll be lucky if you don't get shot, and if he's the wrong kind of dad she might as well ("honor" killings aren't just a muslim thing). If you are concerned, I would make some discreet inquiries to ascertain that she's not being coerced or feeding a drug habit. If the answer to these questions is either yes or maybe, then talk to her and MAYBE her family. If the answer is no, mind your own business and maybe rember that every porn model is someone's daughter. Just a thought.
FQ13 Who would be on the phone to everyone he knew if she were fifteen, but in your twenties, its your life and no one else's unless there are kids involved

[TAB]

Anyone that I would call a friend, knows that if they were to do a "honor killing"  they would be laying in the casket right along with her.   I look down very strongly on those that abuse thier loved ones. 

Having them forced or on drugs/booze is what I'm worried about.  Not that there are naked pictures all over the net. 

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[fightingquaker13]

Anyone that I would call a friend, knows that if they were to do a "honor killing"  they would be laying in the casket right along with her.   I look down very strongly on those that abuse thier loved ones. 

Having them forced or on drugs/booze is what I'm worried about.  Not that there are naked pictures all over the net. 

Two good answers that make me respect you more, but you never know what sort of weird baggage people pick up. Some guys make the leap from "my girls in trouble" to "how dare she embarrass me", never understood it, but it happens every day.
Second point, maybe just call her. You'll embarrass the hell out of her, and that's a good thing. Just tell her you are debating calling dad and want her side before you say anything. Even if she is doing it for a buck, as long as its consensual, its her deal at twenty something. More than one of my students at UT payed the bills by dancing at titty bars. Dad wouldn't approve, but they wanted that MBA. Not the way I would have done it, but not my call.
FQ13

[Rob10ring]

Even though the girl is in her 20's, the friend may want to know, since he may be supporting her through college. Maybe he's also giving her her startup money for her "modeling" career. If she's made a mistake and maybe doesn't know that she's been a part of porn, she may need to be informed, so she can be make decisions about the sleazes that she dates. This isn't about someone's private life when it's gone public. She may still need her parent's guidance still. It's pretty tough to be a girl in this internet-tied, sexting society.

[crusader rabbit]

FQ13 Who would be on the phone to everyone he knew if she were fifteen, but in your twenties, its your life and no one else's unless there are kids involved

FQ13 gets the prize for the best answer IMHO.  You raise 'em the best way you know how.  You equip them for the world as well as you can.  But, when they hit 21, all you can do is hope the lessons were learned, (and stand by to help pick up the pieces if they weren't). 

[Timothy]

FQ13 gets the prize for the best answer IMHO.  You raise 'em the best way you know how.  You equip them for the world as well as you can.  But, when they hit 21, all you can do is hope the lessons were learned, (and stand by to help pick up the pieces if they weren't).  

I can agree and being the father of a grown daughter, I personally would not want to know unless it was a bondage thing or something sadomasachistic (sp) that might cause harm to my kid.  Even then, though it would hurt her mother and I, we would try and reassure her (or him) that we loved her and try to understand what drove them down that path.  Crusader and FQ (gasp!) hit the nail on the head...

Knowing my daughter, she would probably tell us anyway.  She's that kind of kid...

P.S.  One of my daughters childhood friends does a little soft nudity on the internet.  It was a phase in her life.....and NO, I've never seen it!

[shooter32]

I would have to agree with FQ also, would hurt to find out but she's an adult and will have to deal with the ramifications later.