Whats up with family fighting over estates?

[TAB]

I really have to wonder, WTF is wrong with people, when it comes to fighting over estates.


I mean they are fighting over worthless crap and small ammounts of cash.

[fightingquaker13]

Easy.
Resentment, often engendered by controlling parents/grandparents who play the children against each other to maintain control
OR
Sibling rivalry
OR
Simple greed
OR
Pride "I win, you lose" even if it is a
45k house with three mortgages and a ten year old
honda.
See also custody battles (Children, what children? I just want to screw the bitch/bastard!)
Human nature is not always a pretty thing.
FQ13

[TAB]

in this case they are going agianst the wishs of the departed.


There is one thing I want out of the whole deal.  its a single picture of me and the departed.  its looking like I won't even get that.  I don't care about the car, the house, the other stuff. ( if you want it, take it, I really don't care) I mean yeah I could sell then and get maybe 20k total, but I don't want the headache.  The very last thing I need in my life is more to worry about.  I mean I have a wife that is not doing well, a kid(thats not mine) I'm trying to adopt, a new biz I just started up, that is doing gang busters in sells but I've not made a dime yet.

[fightingquaker13]

I don't know what to say other than that if you can't win don't play. If you were ok without it last week, you'll be ok without it next week. Why borrow trouble? I just went through this twice in the last ten years. Once with a grandparent, once watching while a friend went through it. To me, unless you need it, and have a clear moral/legal claim, best to wash your hands and walk away sadder and wiser, but richer for not having fought (while enriching lawyers) and having at least the possibility of reconciliation down the road. YMMV.
FQ13

[TAB]

Thats just it, I could win and get a lawyer disbarred while doing it.(most likly thrown in jail for fruad, already spoken to mine about it.)

I doubtly I'll ever be friendly with this person again.  never was to start out with.

 

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[ellis4538]

It's happening with my brother and I right now and it is no DAMN fun!  This has been going on for over 3 years!!!!!!!  I could go on for hours about it but I won't.  People who are related can be so petty.  Parents and or other relatives can make things so complicated.

Richard

PS:  Yes, I have given in a lot.

[Timothy]

When my Dad died, I was the only one around at the time, Mom was still around and my brother already owned our family home so there were no problems at all.  My brothers wanted nothing, my sisters wanted nothing and I didn't really need anything.

When my Mom died, she was living with my brother and her estate was transfered to the State of CT to cover the costs of her care while in the nursing facility so about 100K went up in smoke.  Never was a problem though knowing my family it would have been quite a freindly division.  We don't really care about these things and I think that's because we were all raised to believe that you get what you work for and nothing in life is handed to you on a silver platter.

Good luck...

[alfsauve]

I'm lucky.   My dad has already given us most of the "keepsake" stuff.  He's downsizing even further this summer in anticipation of moving into assisted living. 

We're doing the same with my wife's mother.   Disposing of as much as we can, that she doesn't need or want, before her demise to make the estate as small as possible.      The contentious siblings can then squabble all they want of the remaining "things".

[tombogan03884]

I've seen the same thing when my Great Grand Father Passed and again when my Grandmother died.
I have not had much contact with my relatives since those little displays.
I've seen better behavior from seagulls fighting over a bag of shit.