A Tough Decision - Please Help!

[WatchManUSA]

You need to use the 48-Hour Rule or “You Had Your Chance Rule"

The 48-hour rule as practiced says you can go out and purchase anything without prior approval from you significant other but you must bring the thing into your garage or place abode and place it in plain sight.  Meaning it cannot be hidden or in a place the significant other never goes.  You don’t need to advertise it but you must place in a location that one could notice it.  As a reward for a fellow sneaking new stuff into the place of abode and also escaping any female wrath that might accrue from said purchase, the fellow may make up any story he wishes after 48 hours regarding the acquisition. In other words, she gets 48 hours to notice the purchase and complain. If she misses her window, you are home free.

“This old thing,’’ you might say, when, after a week, she finally does notice, “that thing has been here since July.’’

[twyacht]

Going to go out on a limb here, GET the M+P, I have one and love it. , than take the wife to dinner or get her a SPA gift certificate, flowers, massage, etc,...

After my last pistol purchase (EAA Witness .40), I took her to dinner gave her a neck rub, and the next day while in my "gun room"
was told I had an "arsenal", didn't need to buy anymore damn guns OR ammo, and when is enough enough?

So, chalk this one up to "I don't know", do what that little voice tells you, and love your wife.

BUT if you can squeak it,......... Get the M+P, there's a rebate going on,...

[tombogan03884]

You answered your own question, forgiveness is easier to get than permission.



                                          Disclaimer / WARNING , I've been divorced since 2000 

[TAB]

This thread reminds me of a old lawyer joke.

If your client over pays his bill in cash, is it a ethical or moral decision too split it with your partner.

[ellis4538]

She might forgive but she NEVER forgets!

Richard

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[Pathfinder]

You need to use the 48-Hour Rule or “You Had Your Chance Rule"

The 48-hour rule as practiced says you can go out and purchase anything without prior approval from you significant other but you must bring the thing into your garage or place abode and place it in plain sight.  Meaning it cannot be hidden or in a place the significant other never goes.  You don’t need to advertise it but you must place in a location that one could notice it.  As a reward for a fellow sneaking new stuff into the place of abode and also escaping any female wrath that might accrue from said purchase, the fellow may make up any story he wishes after 48 hours regarding the acquisition. In other words, she gets 48 hours to notice the purchase and complain. If she misses her window, you are home free.

“This old thing,’’ you might say, when, after a week, she finally does notice, “that thing has been here since July.’’

Hmmm, I'm guessing you're not married. Or married anymore? Your comment goes against those of the feminine persuasion, at least the ones I've known.

And Tomboggan, I beat you - divorced 1996, separated 1994.

[Ron J]

Your wife is your partner.  How would you feel if you found out she did something like this?

Tell her about the check AND what you would like to do with it.  Honesty is the bedrock of a relationship.


Yeah, I know....borrrrriiiiing but I don't want to steer ya wrong.

Well said Haz. 

Be honest.  This is, as Haz stated the best policy.  Once you start down this slippery slope and she catches you, her trust in you is damaged.  Not worth it.  With this, you may try to see if you can use bonus checks like this towards a special occasion such as a birthday present or the like to get the M&P.  Good luck. 

[tt11758]

Thanks for the advice, but the situation has resolved itself.  I elected to tell her about the check.  Then she elected to present me with a gift certificate from the gun store (she has no purchase permit so she couldn't buy it herself) in the amount of the M&P, and told me that it was my gift for our 25th Wedding Anniversary next week.  I have a feeling I'll be spending the bonus check at the jewelry store!!  Not sure where she got the money, but who cares?!?  What a woman!!!   

[Hazcat]

WONDERFUL OUTCOME!!  Yes, buy her a NICE trinket, you have a 'keeper' (of course after 25 years you know that).

[Ron J]

You are a good man and you have a good woman.  

I have bought a few guns over the years and just never told my wife about them.  At the time, we had the money and it was not a big deal.  She did the same.  If she would see something that she wanted/needed she would buy it too.  But times and situations change and I wouldn't dream of doing that today.  I need to keep my wife because it's not worth half of everything I own AND ... she has seen me naked.