Miltary service...

[shooter32]

her choices right now are join the miltary or be on the street.  She has blown all her chances when its come to going to school.

Sorry to hear that. In that case there's only one choice.

Any branch of the Military would do her some good.

Hope for the best.

[fightingquaker13]

Sorry to hear that. In that case there's only one choice.

Any branch of the Military would do her some good.

Hope for the best.

Indeed, but also look at Ameri-corps if she's not the type to take military discipline. It will still give her structure and something to get into community college or a trade school when finishes. If the military is it, I'd certainley suggest army or the chair force.
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[Hazcat]

WRONG on the military service.  I was a Drill Sergeant and I DON"T WANT YOUR TRASH!

[CJS3]

The military would be a good alternative, but she has to WANT to be there. Sometimes kicking their butts out on the streets is the best way for them to get some direction in life. There is the chance that the direction she chooses will be the wrong direction, but if she stays home, she will difinitely fail. The worst part of that is she'll take those around her (those trying to help) down too.

[fightingquaker13]

WRONG on the military service.  I was a Drill Sergeant and I DON"T WANT YOUR TRASH!

A drill sergeant? You? You seem like such the shy type. I'm shocked, simply shocked. The fact is that this girl needs reality 101 and some motivation and self confidence, maybe its the military style kick in the ass, maybe its a year of asking, "Do want fries with that". Who the hell knows, she probably doesn't know either. The thing is, I'm not willing to give up an 18 year old kid, and god knows the military has helped turn a lot of young fools around. As a former DS, you should know that one man's trash is another's treasure, and with a little bit of that patented Haz style "friendly persuasion and sweet reason.......
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[Hazcat]

Not saying give up on her.  Just don't inflict her on those that want to be there.  Same as teaching to the lowest common denominator.  Doesn't work for anyone.

[TAB]

you know whats reallly sad, when I was going thru the basic for the USCG, which is a cake walk.

We had a few guys that could not keep thier mouths shut... they were well over 1000 push ups a day and still did not learn thier lesson.   

I really think all it would take is aobut a month of being forced to do something for her to straiten out.  Her mother can't do that( she is 18 now)  kicking her out really does no one anygood.

[fightingquaker13]

you know whats reallly sad, when I was going thru the basic for the USCG, which is a cake walk.

We had a few guys that could not keep thier mouths shut... they were well over 1000 push ups a day and still did not learn thier lesson.   

I really think all it would take is aobut a month of being forced to do something for her to straiten out.  Her mother can't do that( she is 18 now)  kicking her out really does no one anygood.

Maybe try making her pay rent. Draw up a list of her share of bills, part of the mortgage payment, food etc., and make her get a job (which is unfortunately going to be tougher now) to pay for it. Maybe it will help, maybe not, but you have my support for trying.
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[TAB]

her mom tried that... she had it for 2 days... then was fired for not showing up.

[Timothy]

Not trying to be a smart ass here TAB but did you ever think of taking her up the road for a tour of Folsom?  Sometimes a little shock value is a good thing.

As someone else suggested earlier, none of the armed forces accept anyone without at least a GED, if she isn't willing to work hard enough even for that, no amount of forced anything is going to help.

Sometimes people just can't be helped, or don't want help.   Don't give up but don't take it personally! 

This discussion gives me reason to give my daughter a great big hug when she comes home, though I don't really need a reason!