When I had a short barreled .357, Winchester made 110gr. JHP's (they probably still do I just haven't seen them in a while),
The recoil and follow up shots were not too bad.
The 4" Ruger Police Service Six, I had felt really good with anything, but the 158gr Federal Hydra Shocks are tried and true.
Now my Interarms Amadeo Rossi which has a 6 inch barrel, the "bump in the night" pistol, has a rotation of Federal, Hornady, Corbon, or Speer.
For home SD, I like a heavier bullet as distance is usually not going to be factor.
If I leave town, I leave it with the wife with Speer 125 gr JHP LE .38's.
Plenty of good name brand ammo for SD out there.