Hey, Tombogan. That hate and anger is killing YOU. Posting you wonder if her words set him off to kill his own child? Really? Are there any words (or child support robberies) that can "set off" someone to kill their own child?
I paid child support 16 years. I was severely injured and payed less than required for three years. I went to court and I continued to pay until arrears were all paid. After that, I was taken back to court because they said they had no record of my first payment (16 years before-paid to my ex as per court order before pay garnishment automatically began) and because of the now paid off arrears I owed 7% interest for 16 years... $22,000 dollars. I wouldn't doubt I'll be called back to Texas court after THAT is paid off at $550 month for the next reason I keep paying. My son is 24. I've paid 20% of my pay for 22 years. Yet, I am as calm as a gentle shower. I went through the anger at the injustice and ended up suicidal. I was lucky enough to get help. With lots of therapy I learned what those folks at AA learn. The whole serenity prayer thing. I'm sure your ex would love ruining your life, health and future. You don't need to let it happen. You obviously have avoided killing her (I KNOW, and blowing up the court, judges, etc...) and ruining your life and your child's. I hope you get help and learn to let it stop poisoning you. By the way, I met my son when he was 20 for the first time since he was 2. (Yes, I had visitation. No, the court won't jail her, stop her checks, or do anything other than tell her she MUST allow them when she doesn't/didn't.) He is a great son and we are starting a relationship. If you are getting to see your kid or talk to them, then you are actually LUCKY. It can be a whole lot worse. Good luck.