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Re: My unexpected absence
« Reply #20 on: August 11, 2009, 02:28:52 PM »
Keep your chin up. Always something bigger and better out there for you. I have been down that road a couple of times myself and am on my 3rd and final marriage. Sick of losing all my stuff, lol. Sure hate to see someone have to deal with something like this but chalk it up as a learning experience and don't blame yourself.
One bit of advice, don't try and rush out and try to replace her. I made that mistake myself and ended up divorced the second time. Take time for yourself and you will be fine.  ;)

I hear you there. Right now, knowing that she hid her feelings from me for so long. I am going to have a hard time trusting women again. I know it's something that I have to work through, but I know that for a long time to come I am going to be skeptical of those three little words. I hate to say it but I am going to be in that "too good to be true" mentality. I apologize to all the ladies here. But after being blindsided and burned the way I was, when I thought all was great, my faith has been seriously shaken. It's  going to take awhile to get that back.

For now I'm just spending a lot of time with my little pooch. (2yo female Beagle) Damn thankful for her. I think I would have had a complete meltdown without her. I know that you will all agree, the pets know. And it amazes me how affectionate she has been lately. She knows that I'm not at my best right now, and she has been a wonderful companion.

Besides, could you look at this face and still be sad?
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Re: My unexpected absence
« Reply #21 on: August 11, 2009, 02:29:28 PM »
Welcome to the divorced guy's club.  :( I hope she takes it easy on you. Good luck.
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Re: My unexpected absence
« Reply #22 on: August 11, 2009, 02:31:12 PM »
It's a BIG club...my second worked out much, much better. Just keep your  chin up and don't be angry. Good luck.
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Re: My unexpected absence
« Reply #23 on: August 11, 2009, 03:41:50 PM »
Scratch that adorable Sadie behind the ears for me. I'm really glad that she is there for you.
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Re: My unexpected absence
« Reply #24 on: August 11, 2009, 04:21:49 PM »
At least you have 1 bitch you can depend on.  ;D

Hey Kid, should I grab more cheez whiz on my way to the corner ?  ;D

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Re: My unexpected absence
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Re: My unexpected absence
« Reply #25 on: August 11, 2009, 04:26:34 PM »
JC, I'm late to this thread, but I hate to hear that you had to go through this.
I've never been through a divorce, so I can't offer advice from the 'been there' side of things. All I can say is not to focus on the past or negatives, and to keep your head up while you head down a different path in the future.

Just remember that even though all of us on here don't live close to each other, we are a family and you are not alone.
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Re: My unexpected absence
« Reply #26 on: August 11, 2009, 04:49:21 PM »
Late as well JC, sorry to hear about the whole situation. As a man with an ex-wife, all I can say is what others that have been there have posted.

It's not easy, but it does get better. It really does. You will absolutely get through this.

As Peg posted, you are not alone here.

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Re: My unexpected absence
« Reply #27 on: August 11, 2009, 04:59:00 PM »
Late here, too, JC.  Never been down that road either, but have a wife that has.  And I remember her in her "all men are assholes" phase.  There is no hurry with anything.  No schedules that must be kept.  Keep your chin up, cuddle with Sadie as much as possible, and keep looking UP!!

You're in my thoughts and prayers, dude.
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Re: My unexpected absence
« Reply #28 on: August 11, 2009, 05:55:55 PM »
Again, thank you guys so much for the support. More than anything its a comfort to know that I have people like you out there. I know that I haven't been a member here for too long. But I have come to look at you guys as my friends. And one of the lessons learned here is that you can never have too many friends.

Thanks guys. You have helped me to get through another day. I know that I may not yet be able to see it, there is a light at the end of the tunnel. Just as with any injury, time will heal, and I will recover. Especially with the support of people like you.

Thanks.

Jason
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Re: My unexpected absence
« Reply #29 on: August 11, 2009, 10:28:06 PM »
Ditto what everyone said.....

 

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