There was a time she did work. It just wasn't worth all of the B.S. that went with it. The workplace has changed, both for skilled and not so skilled workers. I see it in my trade. It's worse for women. Now they get rid of half the people and expect the other half to "multi task". That's pure crap. The stress level goes straight through the roof, and the paycheck doesn't budge an inch. Stuff builds up around the house, both people wind up getting irritable, and before you know it there is no quality time for either of you. I never let it get that far.
She has told me she feels "guilty" for not working. I tell her that's silly. I wouldn't want to do everything she does, which is plenty. It doesn't bother her because she can do it at her own pace, plus what doesn't get done today will get done tomorrow. Try telling that to your office manager, which is most likely some woman who is trying to "do it all", and is more than likely failing miserably at it, leaving everyone else to pay the price. As soon as I told her I didn't want her going through that anymore, our lives improved immeadeatly. I've found the older I get, the less I want other people involved in our lives. We only me having to deal with it, it all becomes far more simple. And as they say, simple is better. Bill T.