Things (as usual,

) kinda got tangentially sidetracked from the original topic.....which was FMJ for self defense.
IMHO, the bottom line on that is FMJ is better than nothing at all.....and pretty anything else is better than FMJ.
Heck, I think a wadcutter is better than FMJ...but that's just me.
Laying all the technical and physics aside, and like I alluded to earlier, there is no 'magic bullet' for SD. They might have a few 'one-size-fits-most-cases' rounds on the market..... but nothing is going to work 100% of the time in every situation.... just too many variables...... But every ammo maker out there, as Tom was getting at, is always trying to come up with the next better thing.
Like Zombie said, the perfect SD round would open up fast, to maximum diameter, penetrate completely through, while destroying as much tissue as possible and stopping in the first layer of clothing on the opposite side......
Probably never happen.
Maybe some day they will get close.....but until then, we have debates like this, which is good, and continue to carry what we feel is the best round we can carry.